In trying to have more influence, sometimes it is what we DON'T say that speaks even louder than what we DO say. As I discuss in Chapter Five of my new book Speaking to Influence: Mastering Your Leadership Voice, what's even scarier is that small, non-verbal gestures can serve as giant billboards that expose what we REALLY think and feel about something, even when we claim the exact opposite with our words.
Don't believe me? Check out this new CNN video, in which body language expert Janine Driver dissects R. Kelly's body language in his recent interview with Gayle King regarding some pretty ugly criminal accusations against him. To listen to him talk, he sounds pretty convincing. But when you WATCH him and compare his motions to his words, the evidence is downright condemning. Take a quick look here.
Now, I highly doubt any of us will ever find ourselves in this kind of situation (I certainly hope not!), but ask yourself, where DOES your body language betray your innermost thoughts, doubts, insecurities, or desires?
The most crucial lesson to take from this, which is the foundation of my new book, is that your words, your voice, AND your body language have to be in alignment, or your credibility goes right out the window. Which leads to the essential question:
When you speak, is your voice and/or body language sabotaging your powers of persuasion and influence? Would you even know if it was?
If you want to find out, click here.
Here's to your success,
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